The foundation of our society is built on the bedrock of the family. We all are products of a family regardless of the size and although we may not all be totally pleased with the type of family we come from, it is of no doubt that our families play an integral role in much of what we are right now. This is because most of our strongly held values, beliefs, thought patterns and behaviour are largely influenced by our family.
“Charity they say begins at home” if this is true, it also means that the opposite holds. Hence:
“Dysfunctional homes breeds a dysfunctional society”
Of a truth most of the problems plaguing our society today can be traced back to our homes. It is therefore only logical to see that the solutions to these problems can be sourced from the home front. The family is a microcosm of the larger society which makes it a kind of preparatory school for us to learn the values and ways of life before going out into the world to find our path. These homemade lessons go a long way in determining who we become and our contributions to the society at large. Truly, the importance of families cannot be over emphasized!
But then, if we really pay close attention to the current societal norms, we will realize that the rate at which families are falling apart is quite alarming. Even those that are holding up are doing so on a very thin line that could snap at any moment.
Won’t our societies become totally helpless if this age old heritage goes extinct?
What can we do to preserve our families?
One way to sustain this integral part of our human experience called ‘family’ is through “friendship”. Being friends with our family members will enable us communicate better and help us value one another more. We all have roles to play here, parents be friends with your children, children be friends with your parents, siblings, cousins, aunties, uncles and grand parents also. When we let ourselves fall in love with our family and appreciate them for who they are and what they mean to us, we are sending positive messages which will reflect back on us thereby making the love go all around.
We get back what we send to the universe and as much as we keep pelting our families with stones of ingratitude,
we are unconsciously reinforcing those behaviours that caused
the problems in the first place!
Rather, we should learn to make excuses for our families… and be willing to give them another chance not a second chance but ANOTHER chance.
No one is perfect, but we can try to get better each time. So our priority should be on helping each other be the best we can be.
The quality of your life can be measured by the impact you make on the lives of others and your home affords you a better opportunity to reach out and touch the lives of people who are really so dear to you.
The greatest possessions we truly have are our family but painfully, we really don’t appreciate them well enough until they are no more. Then we start dwelling on memories…
Don’t let that be your story, express gratitude and re-establish those ties that bind you to your roots.
We need to re-open closed down communication lines and find ways to settle old rifts by forgiving past mistakes and giving chances for reconciliation.
We are family not just because we share the same blood line or name but because we share a heritage that money can’t buy!
Nothing in this world can replace the love, support, care, strength and drive that a healthy family relationship builds in us.
To do better, we need to stand for each other!
The future depends on us, our society needs a change, the human race must continue, our families must be saved!
Do the needful while you still can and take your family to greater heights. Sow new seeds of friendship and you can be assured that you will enjoy all the benefits.
It really doesn’t matter how bad things are right now, just start today, make a change today, give your home your best, take a stand and see our world become a better place for us and coming generations.
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